Even though I was juggling a busy job, enjoying being a mum and a wife l still should have been experiencing fulfilment, l thought. I concluded this because having a marriage and a family is a blessing from God, it is the epitome of self-actualisation.
l couldn’t help but notice the growing feeling of discontent. I presumed that this feeling was being generated by the stressful job in my life. Needless to say l now know that this job could have been less stressful if my life was being guided by vision, goals and dreams.
l discovered that in order to have a fulfilling life l needed these things in my life. The problem was that not only did l not have dreams, but I didn’t know what my dreams were. Worse still l didn’t have any talents and l hadn’t spent any time exploring what my habits or passions are. This is typical when you neglect self-love, you become a stranger to yourself and no one can help you.
The more l searched the more l discovered that every single one of us has talents. The only way to discover the talents, dreams and goals that could transform our life was by engaging self-love and getting to know ourselves.
Prior to this l had assumed that I was too busy to spend time on my habits, l thought l had no talents and felt like l didn’t need these things. I just focused on the job which enabled me to earn a living. This is the reason why l had remained stressed and lacked contentment with my life.
l needed to have dreams and goals to eradicate the stress in my life. Having dreams and goals means that you have something to focus on no matter what challenges life throws at you.
The sunflower has a special skill called heliotropism, it always faces the sun. It can turn itself and follow the sun no matter what and we possess this same strain. Being stressed is a decision we can avoid.
We avoid it by creating time and spending it on getting to know ourselves. This can include journaling and reflecting on our lives. Becoming really intentional about searching for our likes and dislikes. The secret desires that God has hidden in our hearts. Considering what our expectations out of life are and deciding that achieving our dreams is our birth right and we are entitled to them.
Feeling convinced that we are worthy and we deserve the best out of life. This is selflove, when we practise this, we will be able to create a vision for our lives. We will develop our dreams and create goals then banish the stress from our life. We will become very busy pursuing our dreams to feel stressed about life.