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Consistently sharing my journey on my blog is my way of contributing or chasing my purpose. If this blog becomes well received and monetised, it might lead to creating the life l desire. This would mean earning enough profit to subsist on this Blog. Working flexible hours on my own terms and spending as much time as l need with my loved ones and becoming my own boss. Visualising this kind of a scenario becomes the dream.

 Since the dream is tethered to my purpose, assuming that the dream doesn’t materialise as quickly as l would like. l’m resolved to writing, it’s delightful. It adds value to anyone who takes time to read it. l explore ideologies acquired from successful people!

Nevertheless chasing a dream doesn’t always mean giving up your job. Financially it may not be so rewarding initially. It can be managed as a side hustle that feeds what you’re not able to get from your job or help to destress from your other job.

 When you effectuate what you adore and tie it to a good cause it demonstrates the concept that the why will always drive the how.  Hence, you start with finding out your purpose and your dream.

After finding out all this information sometimes, still deciding what to do is still problematic. In that case just start something anyway because a dream with action and plans becomes a purpose. But a dream without action and plan is just that, a hopeless dream!

Starting is difficult due to lack of self-confidence caused by questioning whether what you are doing is the right thing?  The answer is, you are never going to know without trying!  It is a journey of trial and error to discover what makes you content. Persisting in the why will help you stay focussed an eventually lead to success!

TD Jakes’ son asked his father, “dad how do l know if what l’m doing is aligned to my purpose” He smiled and answered “if it’s not then what you are doing will lead you to the purpose”!

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Dear readers like everyone else these days, l have been watching inspirational and motivational videos about creating the life, l or you possibly desire. If you haven’t please check them, they’re particularly prevalent on you tube.

These videos are so captivating that l began to feel desperate. It felt like l was struggling to hold on, whilst someone was rigorously pulling off the rug under where l was standing! You see l had always grown up thinking that, in order to experience great success in life, you had to have a special gift and you didn’t necessarily have to work hard or do anything special. I had grown up with the rhetoric that you’re born with a special gift, to make it in life, and if you grew up and you somehow discovered that you hadn’t been able to achieve success you had to accept it  as it was beyond your control  and only God could decide exactly how your destiny shaped.

 To understand why l was feeling desperate, please allow me to put you in the picture of exactly where l am with my life.

 l am middle aged, Zimbabwean and living in the UK.  Currently taking time out from my stressful job with the intention of going back after resting.  l was under the impression that life is challenging at times you just carry on because there is no option. I work as a registered nurse and my colleagues, who are just as stressed as me, still manage to carry on with the work despite all the stress.

Given everything that’s going on back home in Zimbabwe, the economic constraints, the political unrest etc. l should be especially thankful that l have a job, a decent house and can feed my children. And based on this, l was really determined to have a rest and go back to work to put up with the stress and so l thought.

In the midst of all this confusion l began to see videos of people claiming that, regardless of how l grew up, my background and my status right now in life, l can change everything for the better!  l can actually create the life l want and can work on my own terms. Being my own boss and having as much wealth as l can imagine! Transforming my life and stress doesn’t have to be the order of the day in my life? I was agreeably gobsmacked!

I carried on listening to the intriguing messages and the more l listened, the more l dreamed and imagined good things happening to me. It wasn’t long after listening, after the motivation fire had died down that l began to think.  They all sounded so convinced that it is possible to change my life, but they had all forgotten to be very specific in their explanation on exactly what l needed to do. My ancient beliefs, the main hindering block in my life had been shaken. l had been given permission to dream! l felt like l needed to get started like yesterday! Hence the feeling of desperation!

Unbeknown to me l had already stumbled onto the first stage of wanting to change my life without knowing it l had started to desire change in my life. I should not have been feeling desperate because the wheel of change had already started moving in my life.

My dear readers did you know that, most successful people dream about success, that they obsess about being successful and think about it all the time. Apparently if you think about something all the time your brain becomes fully engaged in helping you decide on what to do.  What did l do next? l insist that you come back here next week!

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    Prior to feeling perplexed about not having a purpose, I deliberated on why l required to have a purpose in my life, in the first place!

     What is a purpose? Could unearthing my purpose lead me to my dreams?

    Certainly, I learned that It’s all mutually dependent seemingly. Let me illustrate.

    Even though, on the outset, my life looked well set. Happily married, professional job and a semi (not by the sea lol ) near the sea blah blah blah!

    The sacrifice of sustaining all this, was remaining in my inflexible, challenging job. Yet frequently, returning from my job, worn out, only to slump at home and resume the day after and so forth. I speculated, is this all there is to life? What l didn’t comprehend, at the time was that, this is what living a life without purpose feels like!

     l yearned to know what my purpose in life is? I prayed and anticipated that God would convey my purpose while sleeping or give me a vision. Unsurprisingly nothing happened!

     Transpires that detecting my purpose necessitates going on a journey to discover myself. It is about understanding ways of adding value to this life.  My contributing to this life, in the same manner that  legends (eg Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King etc) in the past or living have accomplished.

     Sometimes this may not even have anything to do with creating wealth. Although it will eventually assist you to create wealth.  Perhaps helping the needy or fighting for something l or you believe in. Dr Trent observed that it is also about speaking against what breaks your heart!

      Contributing to humanity, chasing something greater than you, precipitates your life to take on a bigger purpose than only being a parent and maintaining a job.  Let’s face it, if this was sufficient we will all be appeased.

     My purpose is concealed in the things that l’m passionate about. My hobbies, experiences that l enjoy exploring, effortless occurrences. The things that are easy peasy, the sort of work that l would enjoy doing even without getting paid! How does this guide me to my dream?

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    Thereupon I started to desire to do better with my life and l was on a quest to find out how? Friends, l began actively looking for ways of how to change my life, l needed to figure out how? l came across TED talks (You Tube) and searched for, “ how to be successful ?” and lo and behold, someone was talking about how he had been involved with drugs and alcohol and his life was on a steep downhill path leading to a catastrophic destination.

    Strangely enough, one day he looked at his life and felt repulsed. He decided to change his life! How about that!  The first thing he implemented, according to this man, was he read books!  l was infuriated, because you guessed it, he didn’t reveal what books he read?

     Struggling not to give in to my exasperation, l dug my heels in, continued searching and voila, l came across another speaker who was very specific and said if you (l) want to be successful, read successful people’s books, they always explain exactly how they did it. Penny drop moment!

    I was pleased my search had yielded results. Since l was already seeking change my brain had directed me onto the next action to implement.

     l embarked on a mission to read successful peoples’ books and the first phenomenon l discovered was that, they’re all pursuing big dreams and they ‘re all conscious of what their purpose in life is!

     I didn’t possess any big dreams and l wasn’t aware of the purpose of my existence?

    They say ignorance is bliss and l certainly wasn’t ignorant anymore. How do l know what my purpose is, on this earth and how do l come up with big dreams?  Precisely how do l overcome this new complication, to create the life l want? Suddenly this didn’t seem as easy as it appeared. Bearing in mind that the state of affairs in my life had led me here, giving up wasn’t an option. It was obvious to me what l needed to execute next!